You have to control your focus to be happy…in fact it is the only thing you do have control of. You can’t control others or at-the-moment situations you find yourself in but you can control what you think about and give your attention to.
Attitude Archives
If you are unhappy at work you have a few options.
- Quit right now with no notice, telling them to take the job and shove it as you walk out the door. Feel a few moments joy and freedom until you take yourself to your next money making opportunity (if you can find one) and, most likely, recreate the same unhappiness you had before.
- Stay with a bad attitude. Tell the story everyday of how you hate your job, the people you work with, and how you are underpaid, underappreciated, and have no options. The more you practice this outlook the easier it becomes.
- Stay and tell a different story. Talk about what you appreciate about your job or career. Practice looking at the bright side and you will see more bright side. Heck, your co-workers and boss might even start treating you differently.
- Stay and tell a different story while defining what you want in your next career move. Be on the lookout for the next opportunity all the while appreciating your current position and building more skill and contacts.
I recently heard about a study that was done where researchers asked people if they were lucky or not and then put them to a task.
Those that said they were lucky were much more likely to see the hint in the task that made the task simple and fast.
Those that said they were not lucky were more likely to painstakingly follow the directions of the task without seeing the shortcut.
It is very important to maintain positive emotions and happy feelings as much as possible. To do that you must become more aware of how you are feeling and have ammo handy to lift yourself up when you are down.
Create habits of thinking where you catch yourself feeling unhappy then say to yourself, “Things are as they are and feeling down doesn’t help me. I am so happy I can catch myself feeling down and remind myself to pump it up!” Then proceed to talk yourself up to a happier feeling or visualize yourself up to a happier feeling. Most importantly, allow yourself to feel better knowing that goodness is coming your way and you are ready for it.
A “happiness collection” is helpful too. Consider it your scrapbook of happy things which may be an actual book or which can be virtual…whatever works for you. Gather your favorite music, poems, song lyrics, pictures, and videos. Write out or speak reminders of your happiest memories and visualizations of good things to come. If you notice you are feeling down, go to your “happiness collection” and pump yourself up a notch or two.
Do your best to change your thinking so that you can feel good to great most of the time. Use your imagination to visualize things that make you feel better. Flip though your happiness collection for reminders to be positive. Generate positive feelings and raise your vibration.
I have met folks on my journey who live in a state of profound resistance and burnout day after day after day. I would not wish that on anyone BUT I have found that this type of extreme mental pain is part of an evolving process. Often these people are ignoring their passion, what they really want to do for their work for reasons they may not be able to verbalize yet.
Here is a short careerillionaire story. It is a beautiful demonstration of something I’ve been thinking about.
You see, no matter what your work is each day you are in charge of your attitude. If you spend time resisting what you chose to do (i.e. working in order to feed yourself and your family) then you are spending a lot of energy resisting something you have decided to do. What a waste! Since you have decided to do it anyway, why not be fully present in the moment and engaged in your work cheerfully?
As demonstrated in the fast food workers’ story that I linked to above, it is when working while fully engaged in the present moment and with a positive attitude that you profoundly affect the people around you. Not only that, but you also greatly help your own cause. People love to be around such a positive, carefree personality so your networking becomes easy and natural. You begin to allow creativity and intuition to work through you. And, most importantly of all…you just generally become a force for Good!
Go and see!
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